Make It Matter
Bawdy Storytelling is a moving event no matter what stories are being told, and most of that moving comes from laughter. However, tonight Xander's kick-assly brave testimonial moved a jaded, privileged, sex-geeky San Francisco audience to its feet.
Read MoreGone to WisCon
I'm thrilled to be going to WisCon for the first time, exploring Madison whenever I have the chance, and meeting rad sci-fi/fantasy feminists!
Read MorePrincess Boys, Queerness, & SF Erotica at WisCon
I'm moderating panels on queerness and male femininity at WisCon this year, and I couldn't be happier!
Read MoreSexing the Body (Parts)
We're at the point where we need to rein in the deconstruction of our language. It’s society, not science, that suggests male bits must belong to men. No matter how much distance you put between people and their body parts in our languaging, you're never going to erase the fact that they're just squishy bits. And that for a lot of people they tend to come in (ahem) packages.
Read MoreIn Praise of Queer Feminist Porn
Like it or not, porn is where most Americans learn about sex. The ubiquity of free pornography on the internet has made it easier than ever to watch strangers having sex. And because of abstinence only education, sex-shaming parents and politicians, when people want real answers about sex, there's no where else to turn but the google search box. Then queer feminist pornography stepped onto the scene. A movement spearheaded by people like Tristan Taormino & Shine-Louis Houston (and whose path was paved by sex-positive feminists like Betty Dodson, Pat Califa, Dossie Easton, Annie Sprinkle [nsfw-ish], and many, often unsung others), queer feminist porn sought real portrayals of pleasure with women and trans-people of all body types, ethnicities, ages, and proclivities. Suddenly, it became possible to see people who looked like you doing things you liked to do (or wanted to try) and enjoying it.
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