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This Writer’s Brain

Posted on Jun 1, 2014 in Blog, Publishing, Writing | 1 comment

The 1st draft of my 3rd book, Girl Sex 101, is done and off to my editor and illustrator. (Learn more about the book here) I’ve been “done” for a week, and I’m going a little nuts. Yes, there’s more to do, but this is the weird lull that after 3 books I’ve grown to hate. An efficient writer/publisher would use this downtime to work on press releases, tweak the production calendar, and cross all the paperwork “t’s”. I’ve done it...

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Truth-Telling and Permission-Giving: Sexy Stories for Revolutions

Posted on Jun 15, 2013 in Blog, LGBTQ, Writing | 0 comments

I have an agenda. As both a sex educator and a fiction author, I walk in two worlds.  Granted there’s a decent overlap, but it’s sometimes been hard for me to figure out how to be 100% authentic without alienating fans of either of my careers. Where these two passions come to an elegant union, however, is storytelling. I don’t mean spinning a yarn though, I mean true, honest, storytelling. For most of my childhood I was either considered a weirdo or a confidante because I was...

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How to Have Opinions About Art

Posted on Jun 12, 2013 in Blog, Reviews, Writing | 0 comments

In my former life, I was a theater reviewer, gallerist, and curator. I continue to be a passionate advocate for artists and will always be a great lover of art. Last year, I posted a sarcastic-as-hell blog post How to Write Bad Reviews. But I realize that people might actually be interested in how to be better armchair art critics. In an effort to replace snark with substance, I’d like to offer amateur reviewers some tips for writing useful and insightful reviews of books, film, and...

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Queer girl visibility poll!

Posted on Jun 1, 2013 in Blog, Sexuality, Writing | 2 comments

I’m working on a sexy, new book project that has to remain on the DL for another couple of weeks.  In the meantime, I want to hear from you! This book will have a large cast of characters on the girlqueer-to-genderqueer spectrum and I want to know what kinds of girls you don’t think get enough representation in sexy books. Do you want to read more about FilAm fat femmes? Skinny AfroCuban butches? Deaf femme-faggots? What kinds of fabulous folks do you want to see more of?  Let me...

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Dating & Self-Publishing

Posted on Apr 29, 2013 in Blog, Publishing, Writing | 2 comments

My partner is a rather well-known sex-educator. He tends to attract straight, single women looking for partnership to his workshops. Sometimes, when I’m introduced as his partner, these fans will pile-on with questions about how I found such a great catch.  I used to hate this line of questioning, because it implied there was some sort of game or magic formula. As if by reading the right combination of Cosmo articles, wearing the right clothes, and behaving in a certain way, I found a...

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How to Deal with Bad Reviews

Posted on Apr 22, 2013 in Blog, Reviews, Writing | 3 comments

Now that Hungry Ghost has been out in the world for two weeks, the very first of the reviews are starting to dribble in. I figure this is a great time to remind myself, and you, of the ways I deal with bad reviews.   Take a deep breath. Know that a bad review will likely trigger an emotional response.  It sucks the first couple of times, but you get used to it. Let the flood of stress hormones happen. Keep breathing. Then practice some self-care.   Know this is all optional. Lots of...

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