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Posts made in September, 2010

My Kind of Partnership

Posted on Sep 30, 2010 in Uncategorized | 1 comment

Looking back, one of the reasons I could never see myself in partnership was because I always saw it as a compromise of identity. To be partnered, I reasoned, I would have to choose one person to love, I would have to reject parts of my personality, I would have to deny my own ambitions. This is what traditional marriage looked like to me: endless stories of women giving up careers to have babies or men giving up personal ambitions to support a family. College degrees squandered, zippy cars traded in for mini-vans. It all looked so dreary to me, and yet I had no alternatives to look to.

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The Danger of the Single Story

Posted on Sep 27, 2010 in Feminism, Writing | 0 comments

The writer's job is to keep telling stories, to keep adding voices to the mix. Story-tellers by their very nature are the combatants of the single story. We keep speaking up, keep sharing the diversity of voice, an keep the conversation moving. The best weapon against the single story is to tell more stories.

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I am not my hair

Posted on Sep 23, 2010 in Gender, LGBTQ, Sexuality | 6 comments

For queer women, the first haircut is a milestone. Ridding oneself of hair is a symbolic gesture of bucking the patriarchy and its beauty standards and choosing into a standard that embraces a larger range of female identity. With my short hair, I felt as though I was sending a clear message to society, that my beauty didn't belong to it, rather it was mine to use and interpret on my own terms.

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Eviscerate Your Darlings

Posted on Sep 20, 2010 in Publishing, Writing | 0 comments

I've found I'm pretty ruthless at cutting out clever turns of phrase. However, I've run into some major darlings that need themselves a good murderin'. I should have realized at the time, but I made a very silly mistake of switching POV deep into the book.

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Beta Reader Update

Posted on Sep 16, 2010 in Publishing, Writing | 3 comments

For the most part, all my beta readers lived up to my expectations. Everyone liked it, even those who didn't tend to read my genre. I got some really excellent notes from each person. Some notes confirmed my suspicions (sex scenes are too long, feminist dialogue is too didactic) and some of them surprised me (my antagonist is perfectly terrible, places where I thought I was overwriting were actually unclear).

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